No one knows what you want, except you.
You are the expert, the highest authority on yourself. However, you may have a heavy injunction againts expresing need. You hope friends and family will be sensitive or clairvoyant enough to know what you want.
"If you loved me, you'd know what's wrong,"
Is a common assumption. Since you feel it's bad to ask for anything, your need are often expressed with a head of anger or resentment.
The anger says, "i'm wrong to ask, and you're wrong to have me to."
trying to have a close relationship in wich you don't express your needs is like driving a car without a steering wheel.You can go fast, but you can't change directions or steer around chuckholes.
Relationships change, accomodate, and grow when both people can clearly and supportively express what they need.
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